Today the weather is mild in Switzerland, even though a bit overcast.
After several days of intense heat, with a week consistently reaching the 30s Celsius (~86s Fahrenheit) degrees, the past weekend has cooled down a bit, bringing some rains and winds, halving those temperatures.
For this reason, while rushing out to take my son to school this morning I have rushed to my closet to look for something ‘appropriate’ to put on my polo shirt.
I mean, you know, the typical uncertainty of when you well know that indoors you will be just fine wearing short sleeves and still the air outside is chilly enough to make you uncomfortable without a long sleeve top.
So I have rummaged through my closet (my wife would tell you that I have an ‘obsessive compulsive disorder’ when it comes to clothes and shoes as I always think ‘mmm, I’ll keep this you never know I may fit again in it next year…’) and I have picked up a nice motorcycle leather jacket that I hadn’t been wearing in a while.
You know, those with a low collar, long sleeves, and a high waist: in conclusion the typical article of clothing that you feel comfortable wearing when you’re in good physical shape and fit!
Surely I didn’t want to wear it when my stubborn belly started building upon my 6-pack (…) and that’s why I had diligently put it back, but not given it away, KNOWING that I would still get back in shape and use it.
When I took it out of the closet I was pleased to see that it was now fitting again (hurray!) after the recent action I have taken to ‘get back in shape’.
While walking with the jacket on I feel with my hand an object in the right pocket: a pack of chewing gums and curiously look at the expiration date (…I had never though chewing gums could expire!)
12.10.2010, for my non-European friends October 12th 2010…
That packet had been there (untouched) for almost 7 years.
It means that I had not touched that jacket for the same amount of time.
God, my first son hadn’t even been born yet!
My brain has started wandering off in time thinking about my life before kids, before my corporate existence, before internet marketing… and I have started without even realizing the following question…
‘What have I done in these 7 years? Have I reached my personal objectives?’
I swear that this was the conversation that was going on on autopilot in my head, with questions and answers following each other at high speed…
‘No I haven’t reached this’ and ‘Yes, I have done this and this’ and ‘uh, I haven’t even started with this’…
This nice motorcycle jacket has brought back in me a series of thoughts that I had to analyze before dismissing without a reflection. So I have done the thing that I usually do in these situations: I asked myself why had I not put that jacket on for almost 7 years…
In short, I involuntarily used it as a ‘memento’ to remind me of one specific objective: getting back in shape.
As the word suggests, coming from Latin, the objective of a memento is to remind us of something; a commitment, an appointment, an idea, an experience. Whatever we may need to remember to do.
This is the thing with mementos… they are very effective… when you USE them!
In this case, my nice motorcycle leather jacket was squeezed between other items of clothing and literally, little by little, pushed to the far side of the closet in THAT area (that almost 100% of us have) of the little to never-used items.
It’s comfortable to have your ‘things’ there because you don’t need to take a decision on whether to get rid of them or not… I mean, they may be quite expensive items or simply very dear to you so they BELONG to you and no one else.
That ‘far side’ of the closet, I have learned, is the exact representation of our mental ‘closet’.
How many things (like knowledge for example) do we simply store in there, feeling comfortable that when the time comes we will be able to ‘take them out’ and use them for the appropriate occasion?
…and how many of these things simply lay in there, gathering dust, to never be used and occupying vital space?
I have since a few months started again performing regular physical activity and going to the gym to ‘get back in shape’… and now I am fitting in that jacket again!
During my University times studying Engineering, with all the exams, the courses, the extra activities and stuff my life had become so busy that I had reached my 90kg mark (~198 lbs) – I am 177cm tall (~5.8 feet)
At that point, I had gathered awareness of the situation and immediately got into action, not compromising (too much) on food and setting up a stachanovist gym schedule that brought me to lose ca 20 kgs (i.e. ~44 lbs) in 2 months.
I was so much pleased with my results that I kept eating properly and exercising regularly.
After about 6 months, I had managed to build a nicely ripped, sculpted and tonic muscular body.
I was sooo proud of my results and flattered by the side-effects… I was more confident and ladies just seemed more interested! I met my wife in that moment of my life and this would definitely NOT have happened if I hadn’t decided to take a specific, goal-oriented course of action at that time.
We are the harshest critiques of ourselves and I am NO exception.
The question that I have then asked myself (automatically) is
‘Why the heck have I waited for 7 YEARS!?!’
Kids… Work… Life…
All good reasons… and all equally good excuses, because that’s what they really are.
There was NO specific reason why I had to wait 7 years to be able to get back IN that jacket so I haven’t even tried to give myself one.
But as importantly, I have told myself ‘I have been, plainly, lazy and not focused for my own choice. This is nobody else’s responsibility!’.
One of my subscribers wrote me an email yesterday in reply to my message with subject ‘Is There Anything Holding You Back?’.
B. has given me a very personal and thoughtful answer: emotions (i.e. fear of failure, fear of judgment from others, etc.) had always blocked her; it was just easier to tell herself ‘I don’t have any control over this anyway, so why bother? Let me get back to my comfort zone…’.
You can read my full reply in the screenshot below (name and email addresses have been blacked out for privacy reasons)
In summary: it’s not true that we aren’t in control; we DO have control over our actions.
We may not completely control the outcomes, but we are those taking the necessary steps to get to our desired outcomes.
The same thing has happened to me in these 7 years I hadn’t worn my motorcycle jacket: I gave up my control and blaming it on ‘life’ for not giving me time and space to be fit again.
How did I solve this?
By being aware of the situation, of my desired outcomes and by putting in place a simple and clear action plan.
And still, this has NOT been enough for the last 7 years…
It started being ‘enough’ once I started taking consistent ACTION on my plan.
What’s defined as ‘enough’ at the beginning evolves every time you hit your desired outcomes because you are naturally brought to progress further and motivated to do more.
ACTION is the only real and effective solution against INACTION.
I know it sounds silly, but it truly is.
How many ‘unworn jackets’ do you have in your ‘closet’, and for how long have they been there, giving you that tricky sense of false security by letting you be in your comfort zone, occupying your vital space and energies that you could have dedicated to building and achieving great things for yourself in the meantime?
What could you have realized in YOUR 7 years?
Don’t feel stuck!
Nobody will give you back your time lost, that’s just plain impossible.
BUT you can start taking action to ensure that 7 years (or 7 months) from today you’ll keep having great, trendy, fitting ‘jackets’ in ‘your closet’.
Watch my video on the ‘10 Pitfalls That Will Take You Out Of Your Journey If You’re Not Aware Of Them’.
It will help you.
And write me back with your thoughts, I’m always happy to connect!
To your success.
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